True to Myself

I struggled for some time before being able to reconcile the two aspects of my life that make me who I am.

First, I needed to come to the realization that Christ died for ALL God’s children; and, that being a son of God, I, too, can make claim to the promise of salvation and life eternal. This helped me to focus on what was important—my relationship with God—and not worry too much about what people may or may not think or say about who I am.

I then try to apply all that I have come to believe to my personal life whenever possible. So the morals I have come to embrace still help me lead a good Christian life which even my partner has come to respect. As a non-SDA, he may not agree; but he respects it.

So, I guess in a nutshell, my being gay has not changed who I am at the core. I still believe in God, and I still believe in the need of a Saviour. I just have become exclusively attached to a man rather than to a woman, and so long as I respect that exclusivity and remain faithful and true to him, I believe I will remain true to myself and to my Lord and Saviour.

—Anonymous Gay Adventist Man
November 2004

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